Have you ever lost something and felt like it was the end of the world, only to realize that it really wasn’t? This happened to me and my husband when we were planning our wedding. Like most many couples, I was doing most of the planning. I’m a planner, I love planning parties and figuring out all of the little details to pull everything together.
At the time, we were living in our second apartment together. We had downsized so we could start saving up to buy a house. Our apartment was about 800 sq. ft. and had 1 bedroom and 1 bathroom. It was a good size for a couple, but we had the habit of just throwing things wherever there was room.
We were getting ready to start putting our invitations together and I had bought the stamps online. They were pretty rose ones, perfect for wedding invitations. One thing people forget to tell you when figuring out how much your wedding is going to cost is that stamps are expensive. We spent about $115 on the stamps and when I received them in the mail, I put them on a table. When I went to put the stamps on the envelopes one night, they were nowhere to be found.
I started freaking out! They had to be somewhere! I looked everywhere, interrogated my husband as to where he put them and was in a horrible mood. We couldn’t find them anywhere and had to come to the assumption that one of us had thrown them away. Of course, I was devastated. That was $115 down the drain! I started crying and my husband just kind of lost it on me. He yelled, “I don’t care about stamps! My Grandmother is dying and you’re crying over stamps!”
His grandmother had been ill at the time and wasn’t doing well. Sadly, we both knew she didn’t have much longer.
He was so right that stamps were not something to cry over. They’re just stamps…hardly important in life. I realized as soon as he had said it that I was being absolutely ridiculous and he put things into perspective for me.
This was an important moment in our relationship, because we look back on this moment whenever one of us is getting upset over something little. We’ll say, “No crying over stamps” to put things back into perspective. This makes the other realize that there are so many other more important things in life and to stop being upset.
Do you and your significant other have a little saying or memory to look back on that puts things in perspective?